Sunday, December 28, 2008
Spoiled Bratty Kids!!
I love my kids!! I think they are great, but I wonder if I am doing a good job with them. Am I spoiling them too much. I think there is a problem there. Oaklee has started to throw these BAD fits. She has been hitting and Jax has picked up on her unbecoming behavior. I feel like I yell ALL DAY!! I say, "Don't hit" and in the same breath, "Do you want a spanked bottom?". Yeah, I am such a great role model. Right after I had Trevee, I kind of gave them everything to them because I was grateful that they were here. Now I am paying for that. Is there a happy medium between giving everything and saying NO to everything? I am having a tough time finding that answer myself. I guess I need to find a way to be a good MOM!!
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THere is so much help out there that I am going to sit back and see what comes in! I love that you asked-it shows humility-a willingness to learn! I wish I could go back and change some things, but I never will regret the time I spent reading with and to them, FHE, playing with them, listeningand reacting to their day's activities. The "things" we were NOT able to give them turned out to be a blessing since none of the first four were spoiled! One word of help-Remember to be honest-if you say you are going to do something then do it. Follow through and let them pay the consequences of their good and not-so-good behavior. I always say, Motherhood is not for whimps! I love you for the sacrifice and love you give to my wonderful grandchildren!
Let me know if you get an answer. Mak keeps screaming to communicate. I think I am going insane, so I just give her what she wants - all the time. UGH!
The good news seems to be - everyone tells me they grow out of it(hitting, screaming, etc - all of "it"), RIGHT?
Try a RULES CHART. Write down ALL of the family rules. If a rule is broken, write down what the consequence will be. When a rule is broken, show the child the chart and point to the consequence. Then follow through...MOST ESPECIALLY if you're out in public.
I learned this at a seminar and it has helped our family.
Try a RULES CHART. Write down ALL of the family rules. If a rule is broken, write down what the consequence will be. When a rule is broken, show the child the chart and point to the consequence. Then follow through...MOST ESPECIALLY if you're out in public.
I learned this at a seminar and it has helped our family.
I think you've answered your own question already. Find the happy medium between yes and no. Someone once told me to stop and think before you say yes or no to your child, do it for the right reason no matter which answer you give. Someone else told me that sometimes "no" is a gift you give your child. We all need to realize that you can't always have what you want and that is a very valuable lesson in life. Parents who don't say no sometimes are crippling their children socially.
In the end, all any mom can do is the best she can do. Isn't that what being a good mom is? Sounds like you fit that bill.
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